10 great first date questions
So, you’ve found someone you like, exchanged a few messages and arranged a date. Now what? These 10 great first date questions will help keep the conversation flowing with ease.
1. Which book or film has had the biggest influence on you?
Questions like this work because they have universal appeal – almost everyone has been influenced by at least one book or film and will be happy to discuss it. Talking about personal tastes reveals a lot about your date, without your questions seeming too intrusive.
2. If you could have any job in the world, what would it be?
Asking questions like this is great as it shifts the conversation onto your dreams and aspirations – thoughts that make people feel good. It’ll also reveal whether your date is driven by money, status or service, and whether you’ll be compatible or not in the long-term.
3. Where do you feel most relaxed?
If you find out how someone relaxes then you’ll have a head start on figuring out their other interests and whether they are a low or high energy person overall.
4. What’s been your best and worst nickname?
While bringing up schooldays may not sound like the most romantic topic of conversation, a question like this is one of the best you can ask on a date. It allows your date to mock themselves a little and, if they’re able to do that with a good natured smile, then it’s a great sign that they’ll be easy-going and confident in a relationship.
5. What’s a dating red flag for you?
The answer to this question will reveal a lot about your date and let you know early on whether you’re wasting your time. Beware of people who give particularly shallow answers as these don’t bode well for future happiness!
6. What’s the best pick-up line you’ve ever heard?
Okay, so this isn’t the deepest question on our list but it’s a great way to break the ice and introduce past dating experiences in a relaxed way.
7. If you could learn one new skill, what would it be?
Similar to asking about their dream job, this question will tell you a lot more about the person than you’d think and can also provide future date inspiration (that new Italian restaurant for the person looking to perfect their pasta production skills, for example.)
8. Which four people would you invite to a dinner party and why?
The people can be dead or alive and from any period in history. Fantasy dinner party guests can be a great date conversation topic as it leads down lots of different avenues. Try to have an interesting answer ready to go too, if you do choose to ask this one!
9. Do you have any siblings?
Only child, responsible oldest, spoiled youngest – it doesn’t take a psychology degree to understand that your childhood can have a big impact on your later life. Asking questions like these can give you deeper insight into your date and give you a quick family overview to keep in mind for later.
10. Would you like to meet up again?
After all, if you don’t ask, you’ll never know. If you’re the kind of person who can’t bear to be left waiting by the phone after a great date, you’re best to just ask at the end of the date and get it over with.